You a big flirt?

I'm starting to realize that there is no point in trying to find someone to talk to on the internet (in various chat rooms, etc.). I want to have an honest dialogue that is free from games or pretenses. Generally, you will either find someone who is out playing games or trying to lie to get what they want.

In general, some of the questions I receive from men leave me puzzled. What is the correct response to "you gonna be shy if we ever meet?"

My response was none the first time; the conversation went on. Since I mentioned I was doing laundry, he asked "wanna do mine?" I replied, "no." He tried to talk me into it & I answered, "Sorry, not my department." {Because I'm not his mother, and currently only do my clothes and little people clothes.}

After that, he needed to determine if I was stubborn. I stated that I'm not a doormat (or rug), so for some guys that would be being stubborn.

Of course, he did have to ask again, "you a big flirt?"

What does that even mean? I'm still not certain from his supposed explanation, which was "if you like a guy to do go for him or wait for him to come to you?"

Why do some guys look at life in simple black-and-white terms like that? Everything depends upon the context and the situation. Sometimes you don't know you like someone until they've shown interest in you, and then you suddenly see them in a new light.

Other times, you like someone, but know that it's not appropriate (or warranted) to approach them, so you keep quiet on your feelings and treat them with respect and kindness (as you should to everyone you meet on the journey called life).

In reality, after having a conversation like this, I just feel like Groucho Marx in that scene from "Horse Feathers" where Thelma Todd starts talking in the cutesy baby voice.


Yes, if this conversation continues, this pacifist will want to kick someone's teeth in.